Self Improvement Made Easy

Many of my Personal Development clients, when we meet for the first time, sense that they’ve become stuck – maybe they feel that they’ve encountered that so-called glass ceiling, maybe they feel that they’re going through the motions or that, in some vague way, they’ve begun to feel that there must be more to life than the daily ritual that passes for living. Indeed, one individual said to me “Oh God, I don’t even get excited about our annual anymore, we’re going to the same place in August that we’ve been for the last ten years”.

Everything becomes stale in life unless you constantly keep reinventing and renewing. However, But it’s not your life that grinds to a shuddering halt, it’s you! More to the point, it’s actually your state of mind that becomes so numbed by the day to day routine that passes for living, that you simply sink into oblivion. The problem is that you stopped experiencing new things during your teenage years. The normal mind is wide open to all new experiences during early and mid childhood – that’s when our sponge-like capacity to take everything in means that we really were, indeed, taking everything in. By 11 or 12, we started closing up shop. By the end of adolescence, we were a done deal. Subsequently, except for truly monumental events in our lives – like the birth of a child, or a bereavement – we experience nothing new. We think we are experiencing, but actually what our subconscious mind is doing is interpreting everything on the basis of old stored knowledge and pigeonholing the new event accordingly. Effectively, the normal adult state of mind is completely unaware, numb, reactive, divorced from reality and simply going through the motions.

It is not life that grinds to a halt – the universe and our world and everything in it is reinventing itself again and again. Opportunities abound, adventures beckon, new people are waiting to change the course of your life (in the same way as once total strangers changed it in the past). But you’re numb, wrapped up in the apparent safety of a normality that is literally sucking you dry. Not only can you not see the opportunity and adventure of life – because you’re not looking or seeing – even if you could, you wouldn’t be up to taking the choice to leap onto life’s spectacular rollercoaster. That’s because, as adults, we’ve got used to not choosing. The normal adult rarely takes the decision to choose their own thoughts – preferring to let the subconscious do the choosing for them automatically.

So, if you’ve arrived at an crossroads or impasse, it’s up to you to take the right route, it’s up to you to choose, it’s up to you to kickstart your life in the direction that you want it to go. Not a single aspect of your life will ever change unless you make some changes yourself.