Self Improvement Made Easy

“Start every day with a smile and get it over with”. W.C. Fields

Have you been ‘conditioned’ to believe that getting a job and working forty hours per week at something you don’t really like, but pays the bills, is as good as it gets. Then join the masses.

But it’s also true that most of us want our lives to be significant; we want to know where we are headed and we demand something deeper than ‘just a job’.

When we depart this existence we want to have achieved something valuable, and not felt that we had wasted our precious time here on this weird and wonderful planet.

But are you not lucky to have a occupation, any profession? Well, no, I think this is a furphy. You will be dead one day, so why not try for the biggest dream that turns you on? Why squander all those 9 to 5 hours doing stuff that turns you into a depressing, whining, tiresome victim? Better off dead!

Is it conceited to believe you can have the life of your dreams? That depends who you’ve been listening to. Who is making up this game of life? Your parents? Your friends? Your teachers? Your history books? Life is there for the taking…provided that you are willing to pay the price. No hazard, no exciting activity, no catastrophe, no accomplishment. You decide what you want your life to become – if you dare.

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So why is it so hard to alter one’s life for the better?

Here are seven major fears and hindrances that stop people going after their dream life:

You don’t know what you wish for because you thought it was not an essential question or you have accepted other people’s directions without any thought. When we are young, our sense of self and our level of self-esteem are reliant on our parents and teachers who decide for us what is respectable and bad behaviour and what compensation and reprimands go with this behaviour. So we learnt how to please our authority figures by becoming the kind of human being that they liked.

The majority of people are followers or reactors – People who stand out have to be bold and risk exclusion, or face emotional and economic ruin. This is too much ‘perceived pain’ for too little ‘perceived gain’. Note the word ‘perceived’. The actuality is regularly very different but we tend to envisage the worst.

We live in a highly specialised workforce and once you get on the job (just over broke)-mortgage-buy stuff-pay debts-watch TV (no energy for anything else) – mow the grass – do the housework – you know the rest – treadmill, it is almost impossible to motivate yourself to change careers or do something different.

Fear of failure. You fear ending up in the poorhouse, this fear kicks in as soon as you think you might be better off doing something else and that’s as far as it gets.

You want certainty about the future but of course no-one can give you that assurance so you live with the devil of a profession you know (or the devil of a partner) and resign yourself to a life of sacrifice and sameness and mediocrity.

The misconception that we must find the ideal remedy before we commit to anything else, and so we keep looking for something in heaven rather than something right in front of our noses.

You can’t be bothered, it’s all too tricky, pass me another _____ (fill in the blank).

When we’re used to to living this way, it may take a shock (a family or health crisis) to wake us up and sadly this is what it takes before a person resolvesthat ‘enough is enough’.

But what then?

Another predicament emerges from the complete specialisation of the rat race. What/ Who / Where/ When/ How do I change my life? All you know so far is what doesn’t work! How do you find the correct path to your most wanted future? What do you really want?

There must be a way out of this confusion?

There is. Learn how to fashion your future. Become a life artist.

But it’s not for everyone. Turning one’s life around and becoming a inventor rather than a reactor isn’t uncomplicated or rapid. Discovering or finding what we should do with our lives is one of life’s mind-blowing dramas. It is a never-ending process of self-discovery and should be cherished for the level of complexity involved.

You will have your knockers. “What a dumb idea!” “It won’t pay the rent.” How unrealistic.” “He’s off with the fairies again.”

But it’s not unreasonable and it won’t put you in the poorhouse. (You will think of the worst that can come about and have strategy B ready…won’t you?).

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