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No one is born with natural magnetism. Attraction magnetism is a learned skill that has the appearance of being natural if you have not had the benefit of being exposed to the right motivators under the right circumstances. Here are 7 ways you can fire up your inner magnetism.

The Attraction Factor, whether male or female, provides an outward display of your inner confidence or self esteem. It reflects true self-perception as well as the depth of your self-discipline. But, how do you get there? What do you need to know to transform yourself?

To be a magnetic person involves developing a sensitivity to the people around us and figuring out how we can best interact in a positive way. This may involve the right clothing, makeup, personal hygiene, even how we take care of our homes and vehicles. All these are mere bait to attract the attention of others.

Developing magnetic attraction is necessary for success and for beneficial relationships in today’s competitive society. We must create a total package of eye candy to attract others. This cannot be phony, either. Personal magnetism can only come from within and be reflected outwardly for it to work. Otherwise it is phony and will be rejected.

Think about the type of people you are attracted to. They are not people who wear wrinkled or dirty clothing, who fail to bathe regularly, who allow their love handles to grow into truck tires, who can’t seem to find a hairbrush or comb, who never clean their fingernails or use a toothbrush. You get the idea. Ugh!

The advertising moguls sell beauty and magnetism using supermodels with sultry faces and unreal proportions. And, that’s just the male models!

They push wrinkle cream for women, hair color for men, designer labels, and expensive cars, all promising to give us what I call – “The Attraction Factor.” If you met the product pushers in person you would find they look just like us and find out that they do not use the junk themselves, except maybe the expensive car, clothes, and jewelry that they bought with your money.

No, friends, The Attraction Factor comes from within and will overcome glitz and glamour every time.

Attractive people are just like us but they are people who watch what they eat, keep their bodies buffed and powdered, and wear fashionable, yet inexpensive clothing. They maintain an empowered lifestyle with mind-expanding books and engage life in ways that enriches their inner being.

Magnetic people will quickly give their opinions and fight for their pet projects. Whether handsome or beautiful or seen as dull or plain by superficial people, truly magnetic people outwardly radiate an intelligence and burning curiosity that reflects their inner being. It is how they carry themselves and engage with the world at large. It is why they attract others to them like a baby to its mother.

Magnetic people attract those people who need to be connected with attractive people because they need direction and leadership.

In reality, a magnetic personality is wholeness personified. The magnetic person is not dependent upon others for their validation, rather, others need the magnetic person for validation.

Magnetic people push themselves daily to be the best that they can be. They understand the wholeness in the interconnection of body, soul and spirit. They focus each facet of their inner being by expanding their talents and energizing their passions.

To superficial people a megnetic person may look ordinary but, in fact, they lead extraordinary lives. These exceptional people try to have a positive impact on their world and easily expose the lie of manufactured magnetism of supermodels and celebrities.

Developing your magnetic personality begins with development of your mind and body. It’s easy, really. It just takes a bit of determination and time.

Here are 7 things to get you started on energizing your personal magnetism.magnetic personality.

1. Reading books and magazines lead the list.

Focus on what you are interested in, at first, then expand your horizons by reading on subjects you know nothing about but have always wondered about. You will attract and hold the attention of more people when you are able to converse about a wide variety of things that the people you want to influence are interested in. You see, intelligence is magnetic, too.

2. Comedy.

Comedy will teach you about what makes people laugh and you will discover how to use humor as part of The Attraction Factor. Watch funny videos or go to a comedy club. Watch Letterman, O’brien, and Leno to learn the art of the one-liner. Go ahead and develop your sense of humor. Making people laugh with you is yet another personality magnet and a valued skill.

3. Food and drink.

Yes, you really reflect what you eat. Eat fatty foods and you will become a “fatty.” It’s true that many folks are magnetic even when overweight but this advice is more about making healthy choices. The healthier you are, the more energy you have to charge up your inner magnetism!

4. There is no magnetism in a bottle.

In spite of the commercials, good old soap, shampoo and mouthwash are better than all the pheromone creams, libido boosters, and ridiculous surgical implants. Good hygiene is the nectar that makes you sweeter. You become the honey for the bees.

5. What do people see?

You don’t need a professional tailor to look good but you do need to pay attention to your outer package. If you have ever been caught in frumpy clothes while making a milk run to the corner store, you know what I mean. We have all had those embarrassing moments.

At those times we always seem to run across someone whom we don’t want to see us at that moment. Was it your boss? Your catty neighbor? An attractive stranger? Vow to never be in that position again. Dress nicely no matter where you are going.

6. Learn to listen.

The most magnetic people listen twice as much as they talk. They draw people out by asking lots of questions and have developed the ability to listen for hours. Stop and think about this. Is this not true? Don’t you love someone who asks about your life and listens to what you are saying or feeling?

7. Finally: Think magnetic, feel magnetic, and you will be magnetic.

You can attract what or whom you want to attract. Your body reflects what the mind believes and it sends out body language that is a key element of magnetic attraction. You will have that “certain something” that sets you apart from everyone else. It’s intangible and comes thorough your body language. Image coaches charge big bucks for this little tidbit of advice. You just got it for free!

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