Self Improvement Made Easy

It appears that we are built to worry – it appears to be an integral part of our hard-wiring – it’s a major hurdle on our path to personal development. And, if we can’t find something to worry about, we’ll create something. Some time back I had a client telephone me to say “Now I’m really worried!” When I asked what he was actually worried about, he said “I’m worried because I’ve nothing to worry about! You know the way something this good cannot last!” Another exceptionally focused client who, like a lot of business people, is finding times a little challenging in the current environment, told me recently that not only is his wife a born worrier, she tries to drag him into her drama too. “She asked me yesterday evening if I was worried. I told her that I wasn’t, that, in fact, we’ve nothing to worry about and that business is turning the corner. A little later, over a glass of wine, she continued ‘I know you, you can’t fool me, I know you’re worried!’”

What’s worry all about? It is the product of the over-active imagination of the normal mind which, research indicates, is predisposed to dwelling on negative thoughts. It is one of the key ways in which the conscious mind spends the day – while we’re actually supposed to be doing the productive things that will take us to where we want to go in life (assuming that we want to go anywhere exciting, given our propensity to think the worst!). Even worse, worry pours our precious mental energy into what we don’t want to happen. And, on the basis that this energetic universe of ours is responsive to where we invest our energy, we’re actually actively working to undermine ourselves. That is what worry is all about.

But it gets worse. When it comes to worry, the biggest crime is that we have actually lost that all-important resource that we most need to get on with bettering ourselves in life – our own vital energy. As I’ve said already, worry misdirects our energy. Effectively, it means that we don’t have enough energy to even do what we’re supposed to be actually doing in the here and now. And, based on the fact that our universe is indeed responsive, we’re going to get little or nothing out of life if we put so little into actually living it.

Worry is simply an extreme form of useless thought. The adult mind is plagued by useless thoughts, many of which can be distractive. But worry is actually destructive – we’re destroying our own life.

And you will not stop worry by fighting it. Like trying to give up cigarettes (the more you think about not having one, the more you want one), the more you fight worry, the more it will plague you. No – you have to stop worry by ignoring it. Ignore it – it will go away! After all, what were you worrying about this day last year – I bet you that you’ve no idea! How do you ignore the bad habit of a normal adult lifetime? Throw yourself one hundred percent into what you actually should be doing now – you might even find that you’ll do it all the better. It might even change your life.